A woman has taken to social media to share her upset after her parents cut her out of their will – despite her struggling financially. She shared that even though they had a good relationship, they decided to leave their fortune to charity, rather than their children.
Reaching out for support on popular website Reddit, the 35-year-old said that she and her 41-year-old brother will not inherit anything, despite their parents being worth “millions”. She shared that the family now have a good relationship, however she has had to have therapy for complaints with her mother, and her father has a “history of rage issues”.
Her father also has dementia, and the daughter said she was grateful for her parents’ financial stability as she wouldn’t have to worry about helping them in old age. She also shared that she has encouraged them to spend their money while they are alive, but they have been “hoarding” their wealth and continue to “live well below their means”.
Posting on Reddit, the daughter said: “I know I’m not entitled to their money. It’s not mine. If they had nothing to give me I’d be okay with having nothing. Recently however they keep bringing up their net worth to me which I’ve been confused as to why. I feel like I was never good enough.”
She expressed it feels as though her parents are disappointed in them, as neither her nor her brother have partners or children. The daughter said she believes that her parents ensuring they get no money after they pass away is a way that they can get one final dig at them.
She added: “I don’t know how to navigate my feelings about this and would love some outside perspective. On the one hand, I feel like they are sending me a hurtful message. On the other hand, I don’t want to feel disappointed or hurt because it’s not my money and I know they don’t owe me anything.”
One poster was quick to come to her support, reminding her that she was now able to feel “free” from her parents.
They said: “They’ve had their final say in their opinion of your financial worth to them and now you can work on realising how much you mean to yourself and to the people who love you.
“Like, does your brother love you? Do you have friends? Or people you interact with regularly who admire some skill of yours? Are you pleasant to customer service people? (and, trust me, that puts more good into the world than anything your parents have done, besides birthing you).”
Another social media user sympathised with the poster, and added: “It sounds like they’re going for some kind of reaction. You can just keep responding with something like, ‘I’m glad you’re in good financial shape. Given dad’s family history of dementia, he may need to be in a home or require at home nursing care one day’.
“Probably not what they want to be thinking about, but if their attempt at needling you results in you reminding them of their impending frailty, they might shut up about it. Just remember, you’re good enough. And you deserved kinder parents.”
