A woman has taken to Reddit to ask whether she was in the wrong to say she wouldn’t attend Christmas at her in-laws if she wasn’t allowed to wear a hat.
The anonymous woman wrote: “My husband is trying to keep us both happy since he doesn’t like conflict. He wants me to come to one more celebration to see if maybe people are getting used to me.
“He’s told mother-in-law she needs to be nice and treat me as part of the family since I am and that if I feel unwelcome at Christmas like I did at Thanksgiving, that we won’t attend future events and she see him much anymore.
“I understand why he wants me to give her one final chance and haven’t had any conflict with him.
“Marriage is about compromise and I get that he doesn’t want to cut her off since she’s his mother, but I just don’t want to be involved with her unless I have to be.”
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The woman explained that she asked her husband to request that she be allowed to wear the same hat to Christmas.
Her mother-in-law said she thought she had worn the hat since she had a bad hair day.
She went on: “But this time it’s as a statement that they shouldn’t treat me as an outsider, either because I wear hats all the time (right now it’s just a sports visor, which I’d never wear to a holiday, so it’s not like I’m doing that) or they just don’t like me.
“If they won’t let me wear a hat, what else are they going to restrict about me? Let me be me or I won’t come. Period.
“My husband agreed and relayed this to mother-in-law and she’s been asking him why he married the devil. He’s growing tense with me and I told him he’ll probably have to pick a side sooner or later and that I never intended it that way.
“He spent last night at a friend’s house because he needed to think. I feel bad because I care about him and know conflict stresses him out. I told him to text me when he was ready to talk. He hasn’t yet.
“My friends think that my hat request was unnecessary, and maybe I strained my relationship with my husband.”
One Redditor commented on the post: “You took a situation that could have been a first step toward a less contentious relationship with your mother-in-law and made demands which intentionally antagonized her.
“Of course, you should be able to wear whatever you want and your MIL is being insane in this situation, but do you want to be ‘right’, or do you want peace in your family?”
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